Imagine you drinking poison and expecting another person to die from it.
Let me explain what I mean.
We are humans and far from perfect but from time to time, people will hurt us. We will also hurt people.
Not just people close to us either.
Hurt, bitterness, anger, and rage are some of the emotions and feelings we can hold onto when we don’t forgive those who have hurt us.
Forgiveness actually set me free.
For years I was bitter, hurt, and blaming others. Not a nice way to live. Victim mode, it was always someone else’s fault.
20 years had passed, a long time, and this person’s words to me were still affecting me.
She was totally oblivious to this of course.
At a workshop one day, I always sit up front so there I am in one of the front seats my arms folded on the table. Listening intensely to every word. Molly Harvey began to talk about forgiving others and setting yourself free.
Holding on and being angry with another person is only damaging You she said.
In my case, the other person wasn’t even aware that years ago their words had hurt me so deeply.
I still spoke with this person. How can I go and say to them I forgive you! They would rightly think I am mad.
The person in question certainly was not thinking about those words and actions that had hurt me so deeply. They were getting on with their own life. Most likely had no memory of them.
Understanding that I was drinking the poison and it wasn’t killing me but holding me back from where I wanted to go in my life.
Molly the wise speaker explained forgiveness.
This would be a key to unlocking the pain that this was causing me.
This was what Molly told us
Forgiveness is not about the other person but always about us.
You can forgive someone and never have to tell them!!
Yes, that’s right.
I went home and wrote out 2 letters of forgiveness that very evening. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.
I never sent those letters; in fact, I ripped them up and placed them both in the bin 10mins after writing them.
Those people never knew a thing, but I did and this is how I freed myself of the hurt and anger that was holding me back from my greatness.
There are many ways to forgive, this one was right for this situation. I encourage you to seek out a way that will set you free and save you from the poison.